I'm just laughing as I'm writing this webpage. As a single guy at age 26, I never thought I would be doing a webpage on this issue at this point of my singlehood life. The reason for doing this today (9.23.03) is because I'm looking to help my younger baby brother prepare for his "big day"-wedding next year in June-yeah!
The best source is God and you can find the best marriage resources in the Bible. That is what all the resources down below lead up to-God's Word. As I was surfing the web on Christ centered marriages, I found these links:
The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
Covenant/Marriage Relationship with our Creator-Heavenly Father-God
"But with thee will I establish my covenant; and thou shalt come into the ark, thou, and thy sons, and thy wife, and thy sons' wives with thee"-Genesis 6:18
"is a solemn promise to engage in or refrain from a specified action.
More specifically, a covenant, in contrast to a contract, is a one-way agreement whereby the covenanter is the only party bound by the promise. A covenant may have conditions and prerequisites that qualify the undertaking, including the actions of second or third parties, but there is no inherent agreement by such other parties to fulfill those requirements. Consequentially, the only party that can break a covenant is the covenanter."-Wikipedia
"Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant.."-Hebrews 13
Marriage/Couple Relationship Challenges
I'm not married yet (Nov 06'); however, I would like to share some wisdom from God's word after many recent incidents (e.g. friend's boyfriend "pushed her around", so she went to a guy's friend's house overnight this past week; parents' going through a season of challenges again; friends just broke-up; co-worker asked me to work for her as she is going through a "mental breakdown"; financial challenges; etc.. & also from my own personal family.) lately.
My personal input is the need of God to be the center of your marriage relationship-this means have Jesus the Lord of your finances, house, jobs, totally everything...(learn more!).
I believe there is some "spiritual attacks", which the "man of the house" needs to be equipped to combat the enemy-Satan-"he" wants to divide whatever God brings together! When I was at my parents' house one weekend, I notice the "tension". I decided to do what I do at my house, which is playing "Christian music" 24/7 in various volumes (low at night and loud during the day). Somehow this brings a "positive", "peaceful", "God present"-environment; try it!
I could say most or all of the recent incidents is caused by the "lack of fellowship/socializing" with others (better with believers/Christians because of the encouragement to build one another up in a "Godly" way!). We need to be part of a "community" that helps support one another, which is one of the reasons why I love it at Morris.
Still not married (July 7th of 2007) as I write more on this topic. This has been a growing and on-going issue in my intermediate family, so I decided to "google" on this. I found some interesting advice...
"Whatever your living arrangements are, certainly some important questions regarding the purchase of a home have entered your marital discourse a time or two. And the topic of buying a house is often a hot-button for couples: the mix of the financial and emotional elements too often lead to a conversation catastrophe."
"Turning financial trouble around
The first step is to recognize that being different is not being inferior. God put different gifts and abilities in the marriage, and it takes two people working as one to succeed in the home. Since men often are guilty of excluding their wives from financial decisions, a concerted effort must be made to use their gifts and abilities as counselors. Honesty between partners is an absolute necessity. Almost anyone can handle a situation if he or she knows about it and is a part of the planning.
If the problems and the communication gap are very intense, most couples will need outside help to get on the right track. Seeking counsel for marriage or financial problems should be as normal as seeking medical counsel. God has established various gifts and abilities throughout His kingdom, and unless couples are free to use them, someone�s ministry goes wanting. "Without consultation, plans are frustrated, "
"Married couples often argue about money and finances. The wife complains, "He won't put my name on the bank account." The husband grumbles, "She spends too much." She gripes, "Our house is falling apart, but he only spends money on his hobbies." He wishes she would keep track of her spending."
Newspapers and websites across America are saying that on 07-07-07, more marriages are occurring then ever in history. Wedding Chapels and churches are booked across the land. But could we be in a time, a Joel 2 time, where our marriage to Jesus is of higher priority than our natural marriages? What if God would really test us on the urgency of this hour, and in particular the Biblical Joel 2 mandate? Let the Bridegroom come out of His chamber and the bride out of her dressing room (see Joel 2).
We have received the following report that a pastor said to a couple, "I cannot marry you on 07-07-07, even though the day is set. I must go to Nashville on 07-07-07--it is the highest priority." The couple was understandably upset by the decision of the pastor, but the following week a special guest speaker spoke on Joel 2 at the Church declaring, "Let the Bridegroom come out of His chamber..." With tender hearts toward God, the couple publicly asked forgiveness for their response to the pastor and said, "We are going to Nashville and will postpone our marriage."
We are receiving many reports now of couples changing their marriage dates because they have heard, The Call. I believe that pastors must make hard decisions, for it was the priests who were to weep between the porch and the altar, crying out, "Spare your people, Oh God." Also, the elders have been affected with internet immorality and compromise. We must gather and bear the reproach before the Lord. Who knows, He may turn and pour out His Spirit as promised in Joel 2:28, "And afterward I will pour out My Spirit upon all flesh..."
" 9 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their work:
10 If one falls down,
his friend can help him up.
But pity the man who falls
and has no one to help him up!
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."-Ecclessiastes 4
" 31 "The time is coming," declares the LORD,
"when I will make a new covenant
with the house of Israel
and with the house of Judah.
32 It will not be like the covenant
I made with their forefathers
when I took them by the hand
to lead them out of Egypt,
because they broke my covenant,
though I was a husband to [d] them, [e] "
declares the LORD.
33 "This is the covenant I will make with the house of Israel
after that time," declares the LORD.
"I will put my law in their minds
and write it on their hearts.
I will be their God,
and they will be my people. -Jeremiah 31
"Our wedding entrance dance to Forever...yeah, forever. It took place at a Church in Saint Paul, Minnesota. "
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*1.7 million viewer by Friday, July 24th of 2009 Chris Brown Song Used For Wedding Processional Music
Posted Thu Jul 23, 2009 5:49pm PDT by Billy Johnson, Jr. in Hip-Hop Media Training "
Choreographed danced has long been commonplace at weddings. I can't think of a wedding I've been to in the last 20 years that didn't have an obligatory run of the Electric Slide or the Soul Train Line. But this usually happens at the reception.
The newly wed Kevin and Jill Heinz are on their way to viral video superstardom, inspired by Chris Brown's hit "Forever" to rewrite the rules of the wedding processional. The couple who were married in what appears to be a traditional church in Saint Paul, Minnesota used Chris' disco pop song for the entrance of the bridal party. The bride even shunned the "Bridal Chorus (Here Comes The Bride)" to bounce down aisle to the Chris' hip-hop track.
It reminds of me the Jazz & Jewel wedding episode of the Fresh Prince Of Bel Air. They skipped in to the Floaters' "Float On." The Heinz' nuptials features the shocked, but participatory onlookers, rhythm deficient male dancers and a bride and groom who clearly could not be more suited for each other.
If anyone gets a hold of footage from the reception, let me know. I bet there was some hardcore breakdancing going on, head spins and all.
Wild wedding inspires
'Guests describe what it was like to be surprised by a couple's unusual wedding procession that's become a Web sensation."
*on July 28th of 2009 (10+ million hits already after 600,000 hits when I first heard of this on the news (WCCO.TV) on Thursday, July 23rd. See GoodnewsEverybody.com Life: Joy, Happy, Laughter, Comedy, etc...
This is the second message in the Animate series which focuses on making ourselves free and available to commune with God. Transformation comes from spending time in the presence and glory of God. " Windows Media Video (wmv) - 120 mb
"DOWNLOAD VIDEO AT: www.Evangelize.com The funny and cute responses of these children open the door for you to discuss what the Bible really says about love and marriage. This video works great when you are preaching on the topics of love and marriage, or for a sermon around Valentines Day."
"The need for marital counseling cannot be emphasized enough, even for Christians, because we live in a world that often encourages the destruction of marriage. As Christians, we additionally recognize the presence of an enemy, on the prowl to devour (1 Peter 5:8) marriages. From the beginning, marriage has been part of God's plan for His creation, and Satan is vehemently against this precious tradition. If we need evidence that we are in trouble, just take a look at the divorce rate both in Christian and non-christian environments. "
"Words of appreciation spoken directly to your romantic partner go far in paving the way to a happy, healthy relationship. What is sometimes too easily forgotten: disagreements among couples (from trifling to serious) can nearly always be overcome with a few words of gratitude from a partner (a.k.a., a healthy dose of authentic compliments). But it takes more than a "Hey Baby, you're hot" to really win points with your partner here. These are the top five compliments every woman loves to hear. If you can't remember the words verbatim, remember the key principles: appreciation, support and acceptance. This is the triage to a strong, lasting and powerful romantic endeavor.
2. You bring light to my life.
3. You are perfect just the way that you are.
4. I love your (fill in the blank: bright eyes, cute toes, toned arms, sleek legs, silky hair).
5. I am so proud of you.
"The diamond industry also adopted a voluntary System of Warranties with no independent monitoring to claim that their diamonds do not originate from conflicts. These warranties are rarely kept - in a survey conducted in February 2006, Amnesty International found that only 18% of retailers had a policy toward ensuring their diamonds were compliant with the Kimberley Process.
While diamonds have been used to fund conflict, the problem is not the diamonds themselves but the rebels, governments, and individuals who exploit diamonds and in turn, other humans, to achieve their illicit goals."
"Dan Ashley: "So if a jeweler tells you that it was mined in socially responsible circumstances, that's tough to prove."
Beth Gerstein: "It's tough to prove a lot of times. Conflict diamonds get mixed into the general supply and you can't tell a blood diamond from a blood-free diamond."
The bottom line is ask a lot of questions and don't be satisfied with sketchy answers. "
Focus on the Family Daily
Securing Financial Peace 2 (00:28:30)
"Radio host and finance expert Dave Ramsey offers practical advice on money management, covering topics like credit cards, loans, family budgeting and more. (Part 2 of 2)"
*I listened to this last night (Tuesday, January 25th 2011) and thought it was God-timely!!
In all of these decisions, it's vital to be in ceaseless prayer and to be receiving wisdom from a pastor or professional Christian counselor. "..God is very clear, however, that He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). He also says, "So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate" (Matthew 19:6). According to the New Testament, there are two justifications for divorce: infidelity (Matthew 5:32) and desertion (1 Corinthians 7:15).
Divorce also means losing the security of an intact family. It can destroy the network of family and friends. For the custodial parent (often the wife) it can mean a loss of financial stability; and for the non-custodial parent (typically the father) it means much less time with the children. ..
"..Mine included as my husband has filed for divorce. I think we can fight this and when the war against Satan. I would like for many of us to come together and make a commitment to praying for each other. The bible tells us that all things are possible through God.
We celebrate a culture where independence and self-driven attitudes that seek personal happiness is taught and embraced as means to success in life. So given that perspective, it makes no sense to stay in a hurtful relationship. But that's where God wants to prove Himself to be the Mighty Hand of Grace and Fulfillment we all need to walk in Faith. We cry out so often, "where are you God??!!". It reminds me of how my youngest daughter cries and tells me, "I'm hungry, I'm hungry, I'm hungry..." right as I am working to prepare her food. She could get up and leave to find scraps of something less, but if she just waited, she could have a meal I always intended to give her...because I care about her and want her to have the best. She just has to learn to trust that...as do we all...
While we certainly don't know it all, we have handled so many cases that we know where so many of the pitfalls lay. We use that experience, prayer, and training to develop a customised parenting .... This is then filed with the appropriate divorce court. ... At that time, many couples enter the legal system lacking ...
Message 1 - Hollywood's Formula for Lasting, Loving Relationships
Other Teachings: Broken Hearts, Broken Dreams "Brokenhearts In the last thirty years, divorce has gone from an almost unheard of event to a norm in American life. In Broken Hearts, Broken Dreams, you will study the common problems that plague today's marriages and then look at Biblical solutions for making your marriage the exception.
This series includes the following messages:
* Why Marriages Don't Work Anymore
* How to Make Your Marriage the Exception
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*more GoodnewsEverybody.com Life-Love, Agape, Passionate, Romance, etc...
"Many marriages encounter problems, and finding your way toward reconciliation can be a challenge. It takes time, commitment and hard work to make a marriage work. Do keep in mind that some things cannot be fixed or solved, but many marital problems can be improved upon or corrected, allowing you to reconcile your marriage....
"..Unfortunately in situations like this there isn't a whole lot you can do. If your husband is angry, hurt, and bitter and won't consider counseling, your options are somewhat limited. The Bible tells us that God hates divorce, and clearly His will would be for the two of you to reconcile. But God also allows each of us free will, and at this point it seems obvious that your husband has no desire to continue the relationship.
You mention that you pray every day that God will change your husband's heart, but are you also praying that God will change your heart? Have you asked God to show you the areas in which you need to change, and how you contributed to the breakup?...
".... and Marriage 911 Ministry is for couples or individuals who are struggling in their marriage. It is an international, faith-based non-profit organization based in Modesto, California...
If your marriage is in crisis, especially with an unwilling spouse, The International Center for Reconciling God's Way Ministry (ICRGW) and our new Marriage 911 First Aid Kit will provide what you need NOW!
Do you want to save your marriage? See "Get Connected"...
All Is Right - The Video - Erika Chambers
"A music video done to the Erika Chambers 2005 song, "All Is Right". Featuring a young girl, the video shows the security felt when moms and dads love each other. The young actress is the same girl featured in Martina McBride's "Concrete Angel" music video. Also featured are photos of children of saved marriages. Their parents' "healed marriage" stories can be found in the book "Can My Marriage Be Saved," by Mae and Erika Chambers- available at www.savedmarriagenetwork.com as well as at amazon.com and at retail locations nationwide"
Frontline: What is the purpose of a healthy marriage?
"Todd Phillips discusses the purpose of a Godly marriage and the benefits of staying with your spouse. "
Fireproof - Official Trailer, from Godtube.com "FIREPROOF is an action-packed love story from the creators of FACING THE GIANTS that opens September 26, 2008 in theaters across the country."
"Lt. Caleb Holt lives by the old firefighter's adage: Never leave your partner behind. Inside burning buildings, it's his natural instinct. In the cooling embers of his marriage, it's another story.
After a decade of marriage, Caleb and Catherine Holt have drifted so far apart that they are ready to move on without each other. Yet as they prepare to enter divorce proceedings, Caleb's dad asks his son to try an experiment: The Love Dare.
While hoping The Love Dare has nothing to do with his parents' newfound faith, Caleb commits to the challenge. But can he attempt to love his wife while avoiding God's love for him? Will he be able to demonstrate love over and over again to a person that's no longer receptive to his love? Or is this just another marriage destined to go up in smoke?
Release Date: September 26th, 2008 (limited) " Fireproof Movie Trailer (2008), from youtube.com
Fireproof | The Cross
*see GoodnewsEverybody.com Movies: The Passion, Crucification, Easter, Resurrection, etc..
Fireproof passes $23M at box office
, Published by Minnesota Christian Chronicle — November 2008 "NASHVILLE, Tenn. — "Fireproof" continued its impressive run in its fifth weekend in theaters, passing the $23 million mark and losing only 17.1 percent from the previous weekend, according to studio estimates.
The film — the latest release from the makers of "Facing the Giants" — was boosted in part by its opening in 85 new cities. All total, it played in 898 theaters, seven fewer than the previous weekend.
It finished No. 11 for the second straight weekend with a weekend estimated gross of $2,137,000, putting it at $23,610,000 for its entire release. Its loss of 17.1 percent from the previous weekend is unusual; among the other Top 20 movies that have been in theaters more than one week, all of them lost anywhere from 27 to 57 percent.
Fireproof finished sixth among the top 15 movies on a per-theater average, making $2,380.
The movie tells the story of how a firefighting captain played by Kirk Cameron works to save his failing marriage. "The Love Dare," a book featured in the movie," has been No. 1 for three straight weeks on The New York Times' paperback advice bestseller list. It is published by B&H Publishing Group.
Fireproof, filmed on a $500,000 budget, was made by Sherwood Pictures, which is owned by Sherwood Baptist Church in Albany, Ga."
Fireproof interview: Light Talk episode 17
"Description: Featured guests: rnStephen & Alex Kendrick (Facing the Giants), promoting their new movie, Fireproof. rnwww . fireproofthemovie . com rnrnKuturi Edwards, Pastor of For All Nations Church rnCasey Wright, Children's Director of International Friendship Ministries rnrnFeatured comedian: rnKelli Sisney www.kellysisney.com" Stephen and Alex Kendrick of Fireproof: OUT ON SEPTEMBER 26!!, from Godtube.com "Kelly speaks with Stephen and Alex Kendrick about Fireproof and their motive behind it. See Fireproof out on SEPTEMBER 26! Www.fireproofthemovie.com"
Interview with the cast of FIREPROOF the movie
1. "It Had to Be You" (1947)
One of our favorite movies. Ginger Rogers is the original "Runaway Bride". Her wedding dresses are unique and stylish. The story line is delightful. Look for it on late night TV.
2. "The Wedding Planner" (2001)
This plot has a bride's nightmare of the groom falling for the wedding planner. You might find some ideas for planning your own wedding though.
3. "The Wedding Singer" (1998)
Here is a hilarious look at the type of music you don't want to have at your wedding reception!
The Wedding Singer trailer
" The 1998 trailer for the classic Adam Sandler comedy "The Wedding Singer"."
4. "Runaway Bride" (1999)
When Ike Graham (Richard Gere) writes a column about Maggie Carpenter (Julia Roberts), she is outraged and he gets fired. Predictable, but fun romantic plot about the importance of knowing and loving oneself before beginning the journey of marriage. There are lots of pretty bridal gowns to look at, too.
5. "In and Out" (1997)
Another movie about wedding plans going astray and the importance of knowing oneself prior to tying the knot. The final wedding scene is a classic.
6. "My Best Friends Wedding" (1997)
This romantic comedy about sabotaging a wedding shows how true love does win out in the end.
7. "That Old Feeling" (1997)
Only Bette Midler could mess up her daughter's wedding night. Fun movie about dealing with divorced parents at a wedding reception.
8. "Betsy's Wedding" (1990)
Told from the father's perspective, this is a story of how a wedding can take over a family's life and finances.
9. "Oklahoma" (1955)
A look at simpler times and simpler weddings, along with an old fashioned chivaree.
10. "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" (2002)
This great movie about an interfaith relationship and planning a wedding is a must see for all brides-to-be!
My Big Fat Greek Wedding Trailer
" My Big Fat Greek Wedding Trailer"
Michael W. Smith-How To Say Goodbye
"The Mosely's marriage was struggling for 13 years until it almost ended in divorce. This touching story of forgiveness teaches us that it's never to late to work it out. "
Testimony - From Rage to Restoration (Divorce)
"Testimony - From Rage to Restoration (Divorce) "
"...Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar. ...3 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness....
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 "Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all." "-Proverbs 31
*this is dedicated to my brother Marcelo "Ceo" and Khoua, who will be getting married August 04' (changed to January 04'
Here’s an example of a wedding reception itinerary:
1. Set Up - D.J. should set up 1 1/2 hours before the first guest arrives
3. First Dance
5. Eat and Mingle
6. Father/ Daughter Dance
7. Mother/ Son Dance
9. Cake Cutting
10. Garter and Bouquet -or - Anniversary Dance
11. Dollar Dance (optional)
12. Final Dance and Closure
22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church� 30for we are members of his body. 31�For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.�[c] 32This is a profound mystery�but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.-Ephesians 5
The Reality of Mut'ah "temporary marriage" in Iran
"According to an official source in Tehran, there has been a 635 percent increase in the number of teenage girls in prostitution, or rather, Mutah. The magnitude of this statistic conveys how rapidly this form of abuse has grown. In Tehran, there are an estimated 84,000 women and girls in prostitution, many of them are on the streets, others are in the 250 brothels that reportedly operate in the city. The trade is also international: thousands of Iranian women and girls have been been contracted in Mutah to foreigners abroad. The head of Irans Interpol bureau believes that the Mutah trade is one of the most profitable activities in Iran today...
*see SexSlaves & GoodnewsEverybody.com Religious: Islam, Muslim, Qu'ran/Koran, Allah, Mohammed, etc...
Above are some reccomendations from my personal searching on the web. For you experienced couples out there, please contact me for your personal reccomendation. Thanks